Tuesday, August 08, 2006

Work Drama

I don't usually discuss work too much, but this situation has been getting out of hand. Guess what?! I have a stalker! Well, I don't know if she can actually be classified as a stalker, but she definitely has an unusual interest in me. She's a fairly new secretary at the firm that I work for and for some reason has decided that I need her micro-managing me, despite the fact that I've managed to keep my job for (and be promoted in) the year before she even got there. I was even approached by the managing partner for the office manager position, three months after I got there!! I'm not sure if she's obsessed with the fact we're in equal positions despite the fact that I'm only a "three-year" secretary -- maybe she's bitter cause it's taken her damn near 30 years experience to be doing the same thing I am. I know she's mentioned that I have a better chair--which is true, but all I did was ask for one when my back started hurting. I didn't go around whining that "so-and-so has a better chair, so I want one too!" She sends me these e-mails that are paragraph-long formal requests to ask something like, "hey, do you know the password?" She's way too interested in my comings and goings, 'tracking' my time, I guess. Why does she care when I come in, when I leave or when I go to Starbucks if my bosses don't? She has managed to alienate everyone who works with her, and nearly everyone on the floor. She has no concept of boundaries--like, do your job and we'll do ours and she seems to have no clue that it's the way she comes across that's making people dislike her.
I've brought it to both my bosses and the office manager who've basically concurred that she's nuts and has issues, not only with me, but in general. Her own boss deletes all her e-mails and thinks she's nuts. I'm not sure how someone can go around and interact with people and have no clue that they are disliked, or why. She'll send me e-mails requesting me not to change her stuff after she's spent her first 2 months here trying to change every last thing she can. She's attempted to sabotage me and my office manager, tries to obtain money she's not entitled to (even to the point of suggesting the mgr jeopardize her job)--and then will go to the ofc mgr to complain about not being a good manager!! The only one truly friendly with her is the secretary she doesn't work directly with and sits on the opposite side of the office. I guarantee if she tried the pull the sh*t with Maria that she has with me, Maria would not stand for it!
In trying to get me to calm down, my boss told me that I have to keep this all in perspective and to remember the following things: I'm losing weight. I look good and feel good. I just bought a condo that's going to look bad ass when I'm done. My bosses love me. She's obviously JEALOUS and is looking for ways to bring me down! (I just LOVE my boss---this is the 'lecture' I get when I brought up the issues with the psycho-secretary.) And, she's right. Why should I let this nut make me nuts?! I guess, if I look at it that way, it's kind of flattering. LOL.

4 comments:

Julie said...

Ugh! How annoying. My boss is like yours too. She is awesome!!!

Paul said...

OK no funny business from me on this one. This was a really great post, very well written and very descriptive and easy to understand as to what is going on. I agree with Julie - how annoying. No solutions from me, no suggestions, other than to hang in there and maybe kill her with kindness (that always gets them).

Leigh said...

Ok that's just plain creepy. The jealousness is obvious. (and I know this is an older post, I just haven't been around for a while, sorry!)

I think you did the right thing. The managers know what's what, so just leave it at that. You can always have a drink and laugh about her. LOL at least that's what i'd do.....

Leigh said...

Is jealousness a word? Maybe I should have said jealousy? You get the point. LOL